Men,Women,Love, Its Just a Bunch of Shenanigans

I am extremely bored, I mean bored to the point of no return, out of my brain. While I wallow in my boredom and in a stagnant state, I have decided to, just for fun, create a profile on Match.com. and come to find out there is really people on the site. No shame in their game, like they say "Whatever floats your boat." But what I don't understand is relationships and love, and why the crazy things people say make others go Ga-Ga! Ugh its sickening, and it drives me nuts. Or maybe this could be an out lash over the fact that yes indeed....I am very SINGLE. I mean come on Beyonce, you have a good man, it isn't that simple, just liking it then putting a ring on it. I've had guys like it and I never got close to a ring!! So what am I to do?? Just immerse myself in activities to numb the pain of my current status or actually take pride in my new Match.com profile?? What's a lonely, beautiful, somewhat desperate girl to do?? Like a good friend of mine said to me "I'm a good catch." And my response was this exactly "Yeah but no one's trying to fish." I guess because love is something that people rarely find, and once you have it, hold on. I've experienced that first hand. Being in love but taking it for granted and I must say it sucks. Because after that moment you're not sure if you'll ever find something like that again....or if love at all is outlined in your stars. I love being in love and I love loving others. Its this aesthetic feeling that one person in the whole world has your back no matter what. Its the feeling that no one can come between the two of you and that its deeper than the faux pas of what love is nowadays. Quick 5 month relationships ending, in essence due to the lack of knowledge of your partner. What is there to do?? Guess I'll just have to wait around for it....or go out and find it....is there love for everyone?

Reality: Revamped

So sorry Ladies and Gents...haven't been blessing you folks with my work for a while, and trust me that I've been kicking myself for it. But nonetheless I thought that I would discuss the immense surplus of garbage that is on our television screens. Hence the name, Reality:Revamped.

Now I'm pretty sure you all have experienced the demise of what was once a great channel, VH1, to its current status as provider of, what I like to call, Garbage Television. Since the birth of "Flavor of Love", "Flavor of Love 2", "I Love New York 1&2" and all the other shows that followed it occurred to me that American society has lost its sense of morality. The shows not only demean women, but in essence a whole race. Why is it that 90 percent of these shows only portray my black brothers and sisters as baboons who are only good for pole dancing and sucking toes? Taking full advantage of the saying "use what we got, to get what we want?" Growing up I always thought that love was when two people through time appreciate and respect one another. But what puzzles me is how can this be achieved within a month in front of a camera? Love matures with time, not with challenges that require eating a cow's testicle. It truly is absurd. I came to this conclusion as I was watching a new show "For the Love of Ray-J". In the most tasteless fashion, the show found a way to degrade women as pieces of meat, men as egotistical dogs, and that love means nothing more than busting a "tear" on the first "date". What has televesion come to?? The shows my mom grew up with had meaning and substance, and were family oriented. We've evolved from Good Times to Rock of Love. Evolved from serious topics such as JJ's girlfriend being an addict to females blatently giving oral sex to the show's suitor. When my children grow up, what will I say about the shows I witnessed? "Oh we would watch strippers slide down a pole to get into a man's heart." Huh?? I'm sorry but I can't even fathom the idea of this. That is why I say Reality TV needs to be totally revamped. We need to get back to what morals we all grew up with and dignity and pride in one another. Not the degradation of ourselves. Get back to our roots and think about the future. I'm sorry but I don't want my child handing this in for a school assignment.
Reality TV and television in general has lost its ability to send a legitimate message. Life is so much more than people battling it out for the heart of a man or woman. Its the struggle, joy and gratification of being surrounded by those that love you. Reality TV should emulate these things and project them in a manner that I won't be afraid to show my children. This is why I suggest that Reality be Revamped. If this isn't a modern day "Black Face" I don't know what is?

Video Ho...neys

OK so I visited VIBE Magazines' (my future employer) website about a week ago, and saw something that immediately caught my attention. Don't know what enticed me to watch the video but man was I happy I did. The video, a minute and fifty five second rambling, with Angel Lola Love, a prominent Video (clears throat) Honey. Now if you've never seen or heard of her before it probably is because you have way more important things to do. But me on the other hand, I sometimes lack that ability. Basically VIBE followed her at a very...shall I say..."classy" photo shoot. I'm guessing the topic of the interview was to shed light on a few significant Video Honeys that have changed the "game". But after watching this video and realizing that these are the type of women that in an odd sense represent our black culture, honestly makes me sick to my stomach. As Angel is being interviewed she says around the, :21 sec mark, that VIBE chose 5 women based on their "game changing abilities" and who have turned around and became "icons". What?!?! I almost fell out my seat after she said this. When i think of an Icon, Beyonce comes to my head, Janet Jackson, Alicia Keys, Michelle Obama and countless others. Not a plastic surgery enhanced, big butt girl, shaking her ass in a video!! I'm sorry if this is harsh but I know a lot of you out there think the same thing. Granted, some of these women are possibly educated and only do this for the perks, but I mean seriously, to put yourself in a category with women that actually respect themselves, is a shame. But Ms. Angel Lola Love really took the cake with her antics toward the :26 sec mark. She says,not only do these women appear in videos and as "co-stars to the artists" are in turn role models for young girls (SMH). Young girls like who, the ones standing out on the corners or girls like me in school trying to make something out of myself?? Is this who our role models have turned into? Ass shaking and breast bouncing females?? Please someone help me understand this. Check the video out for yourself.

Just thought I'd bring my insight on this.